When Good Things Feel "Bad"

Enjoy my latest article:

http://www.bayareawj.com/life-coaching-when-great-things-feel-bad/

Love ,
Nikki

Check'n Out to Check Back In ....

Latest article....

http://www.bayareawj.com/increase-your-energy-by-checkn-out-to-check-back-in


With love,
Nikki

Effective Communication = Connection

Check out my latest TV segment!

http://abclocal.go.com/kgo/story?section=view_from_the_bay/sex_relationships&id=7513848


Enjoy!

Nikki

Trusting the Process

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http://www.bayareawj.com/the-art-of-trusting-the-process/

With love,

Nikki

Want Different Results .... Change Your Actions

Latest article....

http://www.bayareawj.com/want-different-results-change-your-actions/

With Love,
Nikki

24 hours ....

I read an article today (that my insightful boyfriend sent me) that really got me thinking about my life, my finances and most important, what I value most. Something I personally struggle with often is what I call 'financial insecurity'. Although, I've not really examined this fully, I know it comes from a deep place of distrust. And as such, when I notice it rearing it's ugly head I ask for more faith. How does this insecurity rear its ugly head? Typically it shows up through anxiety, restricting myself in various ways, spats of frustration (over seemingly small things) and an inability to stop thinking about my financial welfare. It's time consuming, energy draining and fruitless.

While reading this article today

http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2009/02/15/george-kinder-three-questions-about-life-planning/
I began to think about what money means to me..... and why I place so much importance on it. What does it really get me? And more important, does it get me the things, people, places, experiences that I most value? In the above article this question was asked, "What would you do if you only had 24-hours left?" The first thing that popped into my head was spend it with as many friends and loved ones as I could gather in that time. Money was not in the equation. Not even close. Now, that doesn't mean I don't value money or think it's important in order to live - it is. We do need money to buy food, pay for our shelter and clothe our bodies. However, it is not the end-all, be-all. That said this world is very focused on material things - nice dinners out, the latest fashions, excursions, pretty homes, exquisite home furnishings, etc.... which make it very hard to keep money in any kind of spiritual perspective. However, when I really think about it I recognize I came into this world penniless and I will leave the same way. What money I do have today came from a source much greater than myself and can be taken at any time, lest I become too attached. We see it all the time - people make a lot of money, become too self-indulgent and in a flash it's gone. I am certainly not here to say what amount of money is right for people to have, however, I do believe that when your foundation is made up of material things versus what could be termed as the spiritual things (values, experiences, love, intimacy) it can crumble at any time whereas the later will sustain and continue giving. When I can see money through this lens I have much more freedom and can see that money is NOT the most important 'thing' in my life - friends, family and experiences (that are often little to no money) are!

When it comes to my final 24-hours I do not want to regret having spent too much time obsessing about money or berating my life because I compared myself to those who had more material items. At the end of it all - I get to take none of those things with me.... I do however get to take love, memories, great conversations and belly laughter with me ..... the things that matter.

Enjoy your life .... and trust that you have EVERYTHING you need, right now!


With love & gratitude,
Nikki

Time Outs

Here's my latest article on Bay Area Women's Journal - http://www.bayareawj.com/recharge-your-life-with-a-time-out/

Love,
Nikki

Crutches ....

Read my latest article on procrastination through using crutches....

Happy reading ....

Love Nikki


http://www.bayareawj.com/procrastination-and-crutches-go-together/

Staying Consistent ....

One of my intentions for the coming year is to be more consistent in my words and actions. Do you ever find yourself complaining to a friend or loved one about how you want to start doing ..... X .... and you wish they would too? AND then, you never do anything about it. I've noticed myself saying over and over I really want to get back to church and I really want to start reading more often.... and then, I never do. I just can't seem to *find* the time to incorporate these things back into my life. And then, to make matters worse, I blame someone else (internally, of course) for my lack of taking action (usually my boyfriend). First of all, it most certainly is NOT his fault and secondly anything (and I do mean ANYTHING) I set my mind to, I can and will accomplish. So, saying that I don't have the time is a lame excuse and not owning the result of my action (or lack thereof) is even lamer!

So, in 2010 I am setting an intention right now that I am going to be a woman of my word. If there's something I say I want (especially if I voice it MORE than once) I am going to take myself seriously and do something about it. Likewise, if I say that there is something I don't want (that I'm currently doing) I'm going to change it rather than talk about it .... only. If I want others to believe in me (and my word) then I need to live by my actions, not intentions.

What are you putting off taking action on today? Stop talking and start acting..... today! ; )


Speaking of which ..... I have a NEW *PILOT* women's group starting on Sunday, January 31st at 6:30Pm in San Francisco. I have 5 more spots open. Contact me SOON if you want to join. The cost is low ($20 per meeting), cool women and a great way to get clear and STAY clear on how you want to design your 2010!

Also, check out my latest article in the SF Bay Area Women's Journal - http://www.bayareawj.com/how-to-keep-your-resolutions-sustainable/


Love & hugs,
Nikki

Looking Forward....

These past couple of weeks have been a time of reflection and planning for me.... what happened last year? What worked? What didn't? What will I do different this coming year? And, what do I want my focus for the coming year to be? All around me I hear the buzz of how to make the New Year your best year yet by becoming more productive, focused, efficient, pro-active and strategic - all of which are excellent suggestions - depending on the goal/s. I know for myself that this will be a year full of exciting changes and new experiences. I also know that I am becoming more focused on what's important to me and how and with whom I want to spend my time. That's a great thing! It means less days feeling like I spun my wheels aimlessly. I am also very aware that in the midst of creating goals and underscoring my points of focus I can lose sight of my most basic need - to stay grounded and 'connected' to my source.

I don't mean to sound hokey but it's very easy (at least for me) to get swept up in work matters and getting things done .... and bypass the fundamentals that help me to stay focused - taking time out to write, meditate, pray, worship and be of service to those who are struggling. It is when I partake in these actions that I am filled up, grounded and better able to 'prioritize' my to-do's.

In the midst of making resolutions let us not forget the basics that will 'always' fuel us and empower us to achieve our goals (at least the ones that really 'matter').

Here's to a *productive* day .....

Love,
Nikki